There have been series of talks and advises about premarital sex; whether to do it or abstain from it. The issue of sex in a relationship is a very delicate one.
There are series of misconceptions about when sex should be introduced in a relationship and if at all it should be a major key in that relationship. It is pointless saying this but we would say it nevertheless; sex is binding and whether you like it or not, there are some spiritual implications attached to it.
No one is here to preach, we would rather be weighing the advantages, ills and perhaps consequences that may arise from the abuse of sex in a relationship. At the end of this piece, it would be totally up to you to decide whether you want to do it or whether you would take a chill break. Either way, you would be the architect of your own fortune.
Young ladies who are virgins are always under pressure and do not know if they should give in to the advances of the men they are in relationship with as most men challenge their love for them in the absence of sex.
Find below some of the things that could happen to your relationship as soon as you start having sex:
1. YOU COULD BECOME CLOSER
When couples who are in a relationship start to have sex, they become closer. They feel like they have seen all there is to see in each other and become more free.
A part of you is given to your partner as soon as allow a man reach the deepest part of you; in the same light, a part of him is taken by you. It could be likened to the communing of spirits where both of your bodies have been merged as one in that moment of heat and sexual tension.
2. IT COULD PULL YOU APART
Another thing that could happen to you after having sex with your partner is gradual withdrawal. Now, no one is talking about the contraceptive method implored; what most people fail to consider is the fact that their partners may become irritated by them and lose interest in the affair.
Many people are seemingly inspired by the freshness and innocence of a relationship that they lose the connection as soon as sex is involved. The adventure and chasing is what many people enjoy when they are in a relationship.
3. YOU COULD BECOME A WANTON
With sex, it is very difficult to stop once you start. As a woman, once that thin hymen is broken in a wave of passion, it takes serious grace for you to hold on and not do it. This means you become Oliver Twist and you do not want to stop until you get more.
What is the indication that you would marry your present partner? Is there any proof you would not sleep with someone else other than him since you are not married?
4. IT BECOMES A POINT OF PAIN
In relationships, people break up and then move on. After talking to some people who have had bad relationships which led to them breaking up, it was discovered that sex becomes a point of pain after a while.
To a man, it could be some sort of glory. But for many women, it is not a glory they prefer to bask in. They hate to remember how their bodies were touched with their inner treasure plundered by men who they now consider undeserving. Which would be your tale?
5. A DIFFERENT PHASE OF LOVE
Many couples take their relationships to the next level through consummation. Having sex with your partner creates some sort of connection between couples. Sex is a form of promoting love to most couples and they do this to make their relationships get better. Some people have no regret doing this even when they break up but many get married to their partners even after the deed has been done.
6. A CONSCIOUSNESS OF SIN
The very religious ones know that sex is a sin as the wedding bed should remain undefiled. Marriage is honorable and intending couples are expected to walk into holy matrimony with pure souls and bodies.
Many people are left with a sense of guilt when they have sex or attempt consummation after the clause of marriage. Words like adultery and fornication come into play then with many dying inside.
7. THE RISK OF ALTERING YOUR DESTINY
Having sex in a relationship would no doubt spice up the affair especially if there are material gains and trips attached to it. However, you may be at risk of ending up with the wrong partner or ruining your chance of the happily-ever-after dream.
Unwanted pregnancy could lead you to marriage faster than you planned and for those who attempt abortion, the guilt may take forever to fade. Even if you play safe, have you also considered the risk of contracting viral diseases?
Having said all these, which is your take? To steer clear do away with the fear!